Because I’m DEFINITELY the first thing, not the second.
But what I also am is SO FUCKING PISSED.
Like, idk, I probably do desperately need therapy. Because I am SO sick of my waking thoughts haunting me. Why is it every chance I get I’m immediately thinking of shit that upsets me? There is NO point in harboring resentment or holding grudges or reminding yourself of the many many many many many times people treated you like shit, from the “Christian” adults in my life when I was a child to now, to my being able to do the work of two adults so my husband can continue to act like a retarded child. I did SO much for his 30th birthday, he did his usual pathetic bare minimum for mine.
In fact, I kind of find him pathetic in like…. a million different ways
Like he’s SO FUCKING QUICK to blame other people for his lack of achievement
Like i am DONE hearing him talk and talk and talk and talk and talk and then DO nothing.
Like is someone being nice to me the most I get to expect? I know it’s more than my mom got, but other than that my husband feels like a burden in so so so so many ways.
It’s horrible to feel that way about someone you love
Don’t say I couldn’t possibly love someone I disdain so much
You don’t get to tell me how I feel, remember? People don’t get to do that anymore. I’m a fucking person who gets to make the decisions for my life and my body.
Jesus fuck did it take me 30 years to be able to string that one together.
I just cannot remember the last time I wasn’t angry or depressed or fucked up. By fucked up I mean my usual blend of drunk and high.
I do genuinely enjoy working on my book. It is an enjoyable process. But. Is that it? I’m to hinge my life’s happiness on market success? Do you hear yourself?
I’m so sick of waiting for him, wherever he is.
Almost as sick as I am of waiting for my husband to grow up and man up. Or just stop making everything about himself.